I had a strange exchange that has troubled me so much that I decided to wait several days before addressing it in order to fully process what happened.
There was discussion about closing a question because its "primary purpose... appear(ed) to be to promote or discredit a specific political cause, group or politician." Having this close reason is essential for the functioning of this SE site, though ascertaining what a question's apparent purpose in borderline situations has sometimes benefitted from discussion.
I was involved in one such discussion.
As closing a question affects everyone -- a vote to close is a vote to block any further answer posts and future readers from reading them -- and since good answers were being posted at the time, I felt that the site benefitted from allowing answer authors the opportunity to address the question and this well outweighed the attempt to "punish" the question author with answer-prevention.
The back-and-forth discussion between myself and another user took a turn when the other user informed me they would flag me and then told me to "shut up".
I replied restating that answers to the question shouldn't be prevented, and also flagged the "shut up" comment but with a message that I felt the discussion about keeping the question open vs shutting it down should stay up for a few more days while closure was pending.
The discussion was removed by moderators, I received a reminder that my commenting sometimes goes on longer than is productive (mea culpa!1)
Are we going to start telling each other to "shut up" now?
I'm curious what it is that leads a user to feel that "shut up" is a reasonable and appropriate response to an argument about leaving a question open vs closing it.
Is "shut up" okay as long as we tightly couple it with a flag so that only a few people see it?
To me, it's something one would shout at the neighbor's dog at 3 AM, not something that we should ever even contemplate saying to each other. It feels like a loss of self-control and potentially falls within a code of conduct issue.
And with a moderator election coming up, I think this has particular relevance.
What do other people think about the use of "shut up" in comments?
1I'm likely not the only one here to have gotten such a reminder; since the moderation team works harder here cleaning up comment strings than I've seen in any other site, we should all do our part to keep comments to a minimum and not be repetitive